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You have to say "hello" first and observe the courtesies. It's a game, and the rules say you have to be indirect, or the burger goes in the trash. -Even in a bar, which is lax(er) party rules. Even I know that.I was a funny one to end up flirting for a living for a while, that's for sure - and it was edumacational, to say the least - and I was very good at it, to my surprise.
Quote from: Valka on June 20, 2015, 08:06:10 amQuote from: BUncle on June 20, 2015, 07:11:40 amQuote from: Valka on June 20, 2015, 07:10:11 amI had something to say about this, but have decided not to say it. Just please don't let this sort of thing cross over into the Lolcat thread.I wish you would say it.It would require being rude, and I don't wish to be rude.Okay, here's the thing; I posted that video for you and I want your input.This place is a locker room, and we instantly went to a piggy joke - I think Avalon, a decent man, would admit that, and I do freely. The video only gave examples of stranger offers, and my remarks focused on that and my own experience/observation related. It's more complex issue than the video displays, but then it was about a woman's frustrations, not the frustrations that feed into the men acting like such buttholes, and that's okay.The forum courtesy issue is another complex one where context is crucial, and I worry that I've been too militant in the past about steering members away from discussing disagreements for fear of acrimony to the ultimate detriment of a robust OT community. Let me say that I don't think we're really pigs, I mean not hopeless ones. (Except metaliturtle.) I've never been a woman, and I want to understand better. I'm willing to listen, and the standard of courtesy among friends is different; I wouldn't have taken that swipe at Gamera on the line above, otherwise. I didn't take it wrong when you sent me those angry PMs at CFC when you had the IP-ban trouble here - and I would have from not-a-friend. Have at me. You have friend privileges with me, and I've not been a paragon of feminist thought here for all that my motivation of starting this thread was on those noble lines.We can talk it over. It'll work out. Disagreement and working at finding the truth makes the world more interesting Thanks.
Quote from: BUncle on June 20, 2015, 07:11:40 amQuote from: Valka on June 20, 2015, 07:10:11 amI had something to say about this, but have decided not to say it. Just please don't let this sort of thing cross over into the Lolcat thread.I wish you would say it.It would require being rude, and I don't wish to be rude.
Quote from: Valka on June 20, 2015, 07:10:11 amI had something to say about this, but have decided not to say it. Just please don't let this sort of thing cross over into the Lolcat thread.I wish you would say it.
I had something to say about this, but have decided not to say it. Just please don't let this sort of thing cross over into the Lolcat thread.
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...As to the video posted in the OP of this thread... it was the use of cheeseburgers and the "haz cheeseburgers" comment that angered me. For me, associating something that's supposed to be innocent fun (lolcats and captioning) with sexism is not something I find appealing or funny....
Quote from: Valka on June 28, 2015, 03:53:22 pm...As to the video posted in the OP of this thread... it was the use of cheeseburgers and the "haz cheeseburgers" comment that angered me. For me, associating something that's supposed to be innocent fun (lolcats and captioning) with sexism is not something I find appealing or funny....I apologize. The wink smiley was supposed to convey irony; also, I don't use "amirite" except ironically, but people may not know that.I'm glad that you decided to comment.
*fans self*Okay, you'll do.
When I was in Peru a few years back (I had work teaching English to office workers, didn't pan out long-term), I had a doorman ask me to give him some good English words to say to hot women who passed him by. This caused something of a dilemma. One the one hand, that's just boorish. On the other, cultures vary, Latin America is big on machismo, and maybe women there just shrugged it off, IDK. And I didn't want to lecture this dude I barely knew about good Gringo manners or anything. I settled for asking him, in a sincerely curious tone, if it was okay for men to do that here, because in America that kind of thing makes women hate you and may get you slapped.He assured me that no, it was fine, and pressed me for a really good catcall. I was pretty much stuck waiting there until my appointment time with the client inside his building came up, and I didn't want to offend this dude since I ran into him before practically every class. OTOH, it's not like I keep up with what all the drunks and bums are saying to random chicks these days, and I didn't want to teach him anything really vile. I settled for telling him "hey, pretty lady," which I figured nobody would find horribly offensive, and then mercifully the meeting time came around. Thankfully, he did not bring up the subject again.