Valentine's Day: Geeky Gift Ideas For Your Sweetheart

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Valentine's Day: Geeky Gift Ideas For Your Sweetheart
LiveScience.com
By Denise Chow, Staff Writer  19 hours ago



If you're looking to spoil your science-minded sweetheart with a special gift on Valentine's Day on Friday, the American Chemical Society has some ideas for how to inject a little chemistry into the festivities.

The ACS has put together a list of ideas for science-y Valentine's Day cards and gifts, including experiments that couples can do together. The organization provides links to websites where users can create color-changing cards, print out chemistry-themed Valentines, and peruse a collection of "cards fit for geeks."

Among some of the suggestions are cards that say, "We make a perfect electron pair," "I will alloys love you," "You light my Bunsen burner," and "Valentine, I have my ion you."

If science puns are not your cup of tea, the ACS also has ideas for Valentine's Day gifts, including instructions for how to make bath fizzies, chemistry-themed necklaces and scarves, and a crystal heart. [Check out these fun science-minded T-shirts]

The website also links to news and research articles that explain the science of love. A blog entry written by Larry Sherman, a senior scientist in the division of neuroscience at the Oregon National Primate Research Center, explains the effect of love on the brain.

"One of the jobs of the orbitofrontal cortex in each of our brains is to interpret facial expressions," Sherman wrote. "When two people are really attracted to each other, and lock eyes on one [another], the orbitofrontal cortex in each of their brains lights up at [the] same time — sort of like two light bulbs turning on at the same time."

Other ideas from the ACS include experimental twists on classic Valentine's Day gifts. In one laboratory investigation, users can isolate the compounds that make up the fragrance of roses. In another tutorial, people can learn how to color the petals of carnations or daisies.

And, since no Valentine's Day is complete without chocolate, the ACS suggests doing a fun experiment with your Valentine that involves eating chocolate in the name of science. The experiment attempts to demonstrate how people's chocolate experience changes depending on the temperature.


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How to Make Valentine's Day About Love, Not Couples
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By Tia Ghose, Staff Writer  5 hours ago



For singles, Valentine's Day can be a stressful referendum on whether they're lovable. New couples worry about making the right gesture, and children worry about who gets a card on the big day.

Given all the stress, how many people actually like Valentine's Day? And is there a way to make the holiday more inclusive and enjoyable for everyone?

"Perhaps if we widened what the holiday meant, it might be different," said Sandra Faulkner, a relationship researcher at Bowling Green State University in Ohio.

Stepping away from commercial or socially expected gestures and making the holiday a love fest for everyone special in life — from parents to best friends — might make the holiday less stressful for everyone, experts say.


Too many expectations

Despite the advertising, or perhaps because of it, most people probably don't care that much for Valentine's Day, said Jeffrey Hall, a communications researcher at Kansas State University.

"There's so much made of it; there's a lot of pressure to do something special," Hall said. "It's a very confusing holiday, because the expectations — socially, collectively, as a society — are just way off the charts."

Many single people feel they have to snag a date for the big day. But even the coupled-up can freak out about the holiday.

"There's this real dance where one person, typically the woman, puts expectation on what a guy is supposed to do for Valentine's Day and reserves the right to judge the performance as being good or bad — but doesn't give him any clue as to what she actually wants," Hall said.

New couples often see the level of Valentine's Day effort as emblematic of their relationship's long-term prospects, which can be a mistake, he said.

For instance, studies have found that more people tend to break up around Cupid's holiday, perhaps because it spurs them to consider whether they really want to be with the person they're dating, Faulkner said.

More established couples, meanwhile, may be too busy juggling kids, jobs and daily life to wrangle a four-star dinner reservation, Hall said.


Exclusive club

The old-fashioned view of romance projected by card companies and other commercial interests is also very narrow.

"It's so shaped around a male and a female pairing," Faulkner said.

For instance, a man looking for a card for his male partner may have trouble finding something other than a teddy-bear-themed card for a 5-year-old.

For feminists, the holiday can rub the wrong way, because it's all about waiting for a man to take charge — to make the romantic gesture, buy the expensive gift and go all out, Faulkner told Live Science.

Children often like the holiday: Faulkner's 4-year-old daughter was excited by the prospect of getting an extra cookie with the afternoon snack.

But even for them, the holiday sometimes smacks of exclusion.

"There's even been some stress this week about who's her friend, who's not her friend, who she's giving a Valentine to," Faulkner said, referring to her daughter.


Redefine love

Of course, the general idea of the holiday — to celebrate love — isn't a bad one.

"Who's against love? We could probably all use more love," Faulkner said.

Making the holiday about love between friends, family, same-sex couples and everyone a person cares about, rather than a celebration of coupling up, could be a way to celebrate the love without all the angst.

Developing personal rituals, such as taking a walk or making a home-cooked dinner, rather than competing over a four-star dinner reservation, could also take pressure off the day, Faulkner said.

Coming up with plans collectively, instead of dropping oblique hints, is also a good idea, Hall said.

Studies show that in long-term relationships, "one of the best signs a relationship is going to succeed is someone having an attitude of thankfulness and gratitude toward their partner, Hall said.

So being grateful — whether your Valentine gets you a giant teddy bear or a roll of Mentos from the corner store — is probably the best way to make sure that love lasts, Hall said.


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